Not everyone wants to be your idea of healthy. Not everyone even cares to be healthy even if they can help it.
Not everyone CAN be your idea of healthy. That, in itself, is very ableist and classist. Healthy is a very ambiguous word. Many people define it in many different ways. Some people treasure their mental health over their physical health. And deciding to accept my body and start to love myself is taking care of my mental health while continuing to live in a society that is fucking mangling it. Either it’s because I’m just automatically assumed to be gross or my health status is automatically assumed.
Please. Tell me what I do on a daily basis.
Please, relay to me what my doctor told me about my health after my last check up.
I’m serious. I would like for you to respond to this message answering these questions because this is how people easily assume fat = unhealthy weight range and thin = healthy weight range.
There is also something called health at every size. Meaning, that NATURAL subconscious bullshit you just drivled to me is a load of shit. Because at my weight, I am fine. No, Society has conditioned us through a bombardment of stereotyping and weightloss programs and shows like ‘The Biggest Loser’ to paint a picture of what unhealthy looks like. And it’s always fat. Hm…funny how that is.
There is a multi billion industry that has profited from the deliberate degradation of fat bodies. When my fat body is less likely to get a job than someone who is skinny; when my health is criticized nearly on a daily basis by complete strangers; when I can’t even make a fucking blog about people accepting their fat bodies without having some fool waltz into my ask box on a daily basis and try to cut an angle about health and fatness…. I’m not going to bend to these standards. Easy? FUCKING EASY?
Easy is not this.
It’s hard trying educate people on the false shit that has been spoon fed to them thanks to society. It’s hard trying to erase their conditioned and LEARNED fat hatred let alone what I’ve been conditioned to think about MY OWN body. I have to work hard to get others to accept my body while learning to accept my body when I’m being told everyday by someone that I should be ashamed of myself for even attempting to love it. Accepting my body is hard.
If you think you’d be deluding yourself, then I dunno. That’s you. Maybe you’re just too caught up in how the media has strictly perceived fat people to be. But I’m not deluding myself.
And let’s get this straight. You just equated someone’s worth to their health and body. You. You can go fuck yourself for that. Settle? Don’t tell what others are settling for. So are people settling for the fat person who doesn’t exercise? Or are they just settling for the fat person you assume doesn’t maintain a healthy diet and workout regime? Or let’s just cut this straight to the bone - you think people are settling for just fat people. Your arrogance is rather misplaced and I don’t even know if you’re deluded into thinking your ‘intentions’ are good in this message.
Thin people with terrible eating habits and lack of exercise never have to worry about finding someone who is attracted to them. Health is only a problem when someone is fat. So again, don’t come here and tell me people just are naturally subconsciously attracted to PEOPLE (NOT JUST WOMEN*) who are in a healthy weight range.
So in conclusion. Not someone’s worth should be equated to their body or health. And not everyone’s idea of healthy is yours or even what those shows like The Biggest Loser think what healthy is. Not everyone can. Not everyone can afford to eat anything but cheap, processed foods. Not everyone can get physically fit because not everyone is able bodied. Some people have health conditions that directly effect their ability to be physically active.